People have different sensitivities, preferences and comfort levels. What feels pleasurable to one person may feel uncomfortable to another, so assumptions should be avoided.

Before or during the appointment, it may be helpful to discuss:

• whether fingering is currently available;
• which areas may be touched;
• preferred pressure, pace and movement;
• whether external or internal touch is acceptable;
• any areas that should be avoided;
• the use of gloves or finger protection;
• whether lubricant is preferred; and
• how either person will communicate a need to slow down or stop.

There is no need to provide an overly detailed list of instructions. Calm, respectful communication allows the experience to develop naturally while keeping personal boundaries clear.

Consent and Agreed Boundaries

Consent must be voluntary, specific and ongoing. Agreeing to kissing, massage or another intimate activity does not automatically include consent to fingering.

Either person may:

• ask for a gentler touch;
• request a different movement;
• identify an area that should not be touched;
• pause for a check-in;
• use an agreed safeword; or
• stop the interaction completely.

Consent to external touch does not automatically mean consent to internal penetration. Every change should be approached gradually and only continue when both adults remain comfortable.

A profile listing, previous meeting or confirmed payment never creates an entitlement to intimate contact.

Safewords and Clear Communication

Safewords can be helpful whenever someone finds it difficult to express discomfort in the moment. A simple traffic-light system may be used:

Green means the pace and touch feel comfortable.

Amber means slow down, reduce the pressure or pause to check in.

Red means stop immediately.

Ordinary phrases such as “slower,” “pause” or “stop” are equally valid. Safewords should not replace attentiveness to body language, tension or visible discomfort.

Silence should never automatically be interpreted as consent. Regular check-ins can help both adults remain relaxed and confident.

Comfort, Pace and Personal Control

Fingering should not be rushed. Slow, responsive touch gives the person receiving it time to communicate what feels enjoyable and what should change.

The person being touched should retain control over the pace and be able to reposition, pause or stop without pressure. Pain, numbness, irritation or discomfort are reasons to stop and reassess rather than continue.

From a sexual-wellbeing perspective, pleasure is not measured by intensity or performance. The experience is more likely to feel positive when both adults remain attentive, patient and willing to adjust.

Hygiene and Personal Care

Clean hands and carefully maintained nails are particularly important. Nails should be smooth and free from sharp edges that could scratch or irritate sensitive skin.

Rings and other jewellery may need to be removed where they could cause discomfort. Any cuts, sores or broken skin on the hands should be considered before intimate contact.

Some companions may prefer the use of disposable gloves or finger cots. Where lubricant is used, it should be suitable for the intended contact and any known sensitivities.

Hands, gloves or toys should not be transferred between different body areas without appropriate cleaning or replacement. Good hygiene supports comfort and reduces unnecessary health risks.

Trust and Emotional Awareness

Fingering can feel highly intimate because it requires attentiveness and a willingness to respond to subtle physical cues. Some adults may feel relaxed and confident, while others may initially feel nervous or self-conscious.

A respectful companion allows the interaction to progress without pressure. Likewise, the companion should be treated as an active participant whose preferences and boundaries carry equal importance.

Trust develops when both adults feel able to communicate honestly, change direction and express uncertainty without embarrassment or criticism.

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Visitors should read the selected profile carefully before submitting an enquiry. Techniques, hygiene requirements, comfort levels and personal boundaries differ between companions.

Bunnys of London encourages mature adult communication in which consent, hygiene, trust, clear boundaries and personal choice remain central throughout every appointment.